Anger is something we all feel at some point in our lives. It’s a perfectly normal and even healthy emotion at times. But anger is also a powerful emotion. When it festers, it can become unhealthy, triggering extreme and destructive behaviour if it’s not dealt with properly. Holding onto feelings of persistent anger can eventually spill over into other areas of your life too, impacting your relationships with others, both personally and professionally. The good news is we all have the ability to take back control and manage the tidal waves of emotion that can arise throughout our lives. At Ottawa Counselling, we provide effective strategies and tools that will help you to control these powerful emotions and even understand why they are surfacing. When anger becomes persistent in your day to day life, it usually highlights a deeper, underlying issue and can become a symptom of many different things, including shame, chronic stress, trauma, depression or a deep sense of hurt. Combined with a culture that may not encourage the expression of anger, and it can easily become something that surfaces in a destructive, unhealthy and abusive manner. Learning how to control anger is not about learning how to suppress it. In fact, it’s the complete opposite. At Ottawa Counselling, we will teach you proven methods that allow you to express what you’re feeling in a respectful and appropriate way which can enable you to improve your relationships with others, take back control of your professional reputation, and work to achieve your goals so you can lead a happier and healthier life.
Some Tools We Encourage for Controlling Anger:
- Deep, slow breathing techniques to calm tension
- Focusing on something you can see, smell or touch to distract the mind and bring it into the present moment
- Getting to the root of the emotions that are triggering your anger
- Asking yourself questions about the relevance of your anger – Does it really matter? Is it worth this kind of response? Is it worth destroying my relationship over?