Why You Should Choose Family Mediation
When a marriage breaks down, there can be a lot of bitterness, anger, and resentment where the focus is on hurting the other party, not finding a fair resolution. If you want to avoid these issues and work together to find a resolution, it is a good idea to consider working with a family mediator. Here are some reasons why:
Neutral Third Party
A mediator is a neutral third party who can help reopen the lines of communication so you and your former partner can hash out your differences in a safe environment and come to a fair agreement. A mediator is invested only in creating a forum for open discussion, and does not take sides nor does he have to render a verdict. A mediator encourages calm communication and will redirect the conversation toward the real issues. If you and your former partner have difficulty communicating and feel sensitive about bias, then working with a mediator is a good solution.
It should come as no surprise that there are often symbolic items that get fought over by separating couples to make a statement or harm the other party. The mediator can intervene and work to find deeper issues that are causing the bitterness and resentment. Once these issues are dug up and confronted, it no longer matters who gets the toaster. A mediator helps to create an atmosphere or openness and honesty, which makes it easier to work together toward a constructive resolution.
Build Up Tension
It is not fun, but sometimes it is necessary to schedule a marathon session. In quick hour-long sessions, there is not the time to build up tension nor release it. The right mediator will take the time to schedule a marathon session as you work together to uncover underlying issues, allow tension to build, and then work to find an agreeable resolution. A mediator won’t just tell you what you want to hear, they will work with you through unpleasant side of negotiation because it pays dividends in the end.
Life Goes On
At our worst moments, it is all too easy to succumb to anger and resentment. A mediator can help you regain perspective and realize that you and your former partner once deeply loved each other, and will someday be friendly or at least civil again. Even at the most stressful periods, it is important to remember that life will go on.
If you are going through a divorce or separation, consider working with a family mediator to help open the lines of communication, dig into the real issues, and support you and your former partner as you come to a fair resolution.