The following is an exercise which will help you to start listening better to each other and to communicate and /or negotiate with each other more fully: Each of you gives the other your undivided attention for 10 minutes. This is best done in a quiet place away from all distractions such as children, pets, Continue Reading
Category Archives: Counselling
Soul-Mates
I fervently wish that you connect with another as a soul-mate in this life, and if you do not, “re-member” that you are your own best soul-mate!! Many people ask me how they can tell when they are fortunate enough to come in contact with a soul-mate. The following is my first attempt at Continue Reading
Couple Survival Skills
Open CommunicationCouples must talk effectively about themselves and their innermost feelings and each partner must encourage his/her mate to do the same. Expression of Love and CaringCouples must constantly enhance their ability to express love in order to prevent the slow deterioration of loving behaviour that often occurs over time. Sex and SensualityCouples must constantly Continue Reading
Conscious Anger
A “conscious burn” is a process which can access dysfunctional, self-abusive memories which are stored very deeply at the cellular level in the body-mind. Done effectively, the “ancient anger” memories (stored in the brain stem), “old anger” memories (stored in early childhood, etc.) and “new anger” (from currently active or present moment experiences) can be Continue Reading
Violent and Controlling Behaviours
The following are the more common forms of unacceptable behaviour that occur in a dysfunctional relationship. Please check off each type of abuse that you have done in the past three months. PHYSICAL VIOLENCE: _____ Slap, punch, grab, kick, choke, push, restrain, pull hair, pinch, bite. _____ Rape (use of force, threats or coercion Continue Reading