Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?
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We all know that no relationship in the world is perfect, even the ones that “appear” perfect on social media platforms – they’re not. Every relationship goes through problems at some point, whether that’s lack of intimacy, arguments for financial reasons, or in a lot of cases, infidelity and the subsequent lack of trust that comes afterwards. Whatever the problem may be in your relationship, the good news is that it can be fixed, through couples counselling and other methods. However, it’s important to ask yourself whether your relationship is worth saving before embarking on this course of action. Here are a few vital questions to ask yourself, to determine whether you should save your relationship or marriage.
Do You Feel Secure?
Feeling comfortable and secure is essential in any relationship. You should be able to be 100% yourself around your partner or spouse, no questions about it. You should also feel like your partner is there for you and supports you when you need them the most. If you often feel quite alone in the relationship, then this is definitely something to consider.
Do They Support You?
Linking back to the statement in the paragraph above, you should feel confident that your partner will support you when you’re going through a tough time in your life. You should feel like a close-knit team – if you feel more like you are two different people living your own lives, then something is definitely up. Relationships are not only about love and attraction. In fact, feeling supported in a romantic relationship is one of the most important parts.
Do They Want To Change You?
If you constantly feel like your partner isn’t happy with the person you are and seems to want you to change into their idea of a “perfect person,” then you should know that staying in the relationship might not be worth it in the long-run. Life shouldn’t be lived if you have to try to be anyone but yourself.
Do You Trust Them?
Trust is probably the most important aspect of any type of relationship. You can love someone with all your heart, but if you don’t trust them, then you can never really commit yourself fully to the relationship, because you’ll always be questioning little things and wondering whether they really have your back. So, if your partner has given you legitimate reasons to not trust them, then it’s time to think again about what you really want out of your relationship.
If, after reading this, you’re thinking that perhaps your relationship isn’t quite as great as you thought, then try not to worry. It’s so important in life to be honest with yourself about what isn’t working for you, and what you could do differently. Maybe these questions will prompt you to have a serious discussion with your partner about how you could improve your relationship. Couples counselling and individual therapy can help you and your partner reignite and strengthen your relationship.